Dear Mom at Midlife,
Are you struggling to balance the challenges of working outside the home and being a mom, while wondering how on earth you can squeeze "you" in there somewhere?

Listen to Welcome Message from Kellie deRuyter Professional, Certified Coach

You've come to the right place. Most working midlife moms struggle to find the time and energy to be the parent they want to be. At the same time, they have their own personal fullfullment needs to address, which become even more important after age 30 or 35. In addition, they sometimes must manage unique situations such as elder care and child care at the same time, and natural hormonal changes.

Their situation might cause them to feel constantly overwhelmed, tired, anxious or simply stressed out. Some feel as though they can never catch up, no matter what they do. They feel like what they do accomplish is never enough. Sometimes they feel wracked with guilt for not living up to their own expectations.

You deserve to feel supremely fulfilled and happy. If you’re happy, everyone around you, including your kids, your husband and your co-workers will blossom under the sunshine of your happiness. People who bring you down will melt away because you’re in a different place than they are. Situations that stress you out will disappear or else they won’t stress you out any longer. You’ll feel confident that the time and energy you put into something is exactly the right amount. You’ll have time for those special moments with your child, the priceless ones that will never come again. And you won’t feel guilty for doing something just for you.

You’re not there yet, because you've been focusing on everyone else. There hasn’t been anyone focused 100% on you. At work, there's a job to do and expectations to fulfull. At home, your family loves you, but they have their own needs and expectations. Because you’re a nurturing person, you’ve been taking care of everyone else’s needs before your own. You’ve been last on your list. It’s been hard to put yourself higher, because then you feel selfish. But here’s the secret: If you put yourself higher on the list, everyone else will benefit, especially you!

You need to see things from a different perspective. No one ever solved a problem from the same mindset that created it. You need to create a vision of the life you want, design a plan for achieving it, and take the concrete steps to get there.

I can help you do all these things. I’ll be your mirror for this new view of your life. I’ll help you design the life you want, create a strategy to achieve it, and motivate you every week to go out and take the steps you need to accomplish it.

I work with midlife moms who are trying to balance the demands of a job or career and the demands of a family at home, while taking care of themselves in the process. They are struggling to find balance in their lives and want to fulfill their own needs as well as those of their children and families. They might be entreprenuers who own their own businesses, or they might go to the office every day. With professional coaching and support, I help these women achieve and maintain the balance they want.

Can you identify with these women?
For more information, please visit My Clients page.

Wishing you the best,

Kellie deRuyter PCC
Professional Certified Life Coach